For each system we are trying to fix in our society, solutions always begin by paying attention to each other - and I mean really paying attention. There is so much anger in America right now - anger, and disappointment, and a desire to be proven right, to "one up" our political opponent, or whoever we are competing with. And we flatter ourselves that we have truth, that we have right in our corner, so we're justified in feeling this sense of certainty. And we're justified in condemning "the other". But this only feeds the shaming cycle. It's a cycle that goes round and round and causes more pain. Only by embracing the other can this cycle be stopped. 

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